I always thought I was good at empathizing—I’m an introvert, so what else do I have to contribute to a friendship but thinking about feelings and our deep interpersonal connections? But then I watched this video and had to reconsider:
Before my wedding last June, I had been living alone and teaching freshmen for two years. I got accustomed to keeping to myself. Ninth-graders have no filter and ask way too many personal questions, so I got used to curtly saying, “Irrelevant” and moving on to my lesson (consequently, “irrelevant” became their favorite word).
And I guess I stopped connecting to people.
I didn’t want to share too much, and I certainly didn’t want to seem vulnerable, so I just chose to listen and not show myself to friends who felt alone.
Starting now, I’ll share a little more (at least in person).
It’s time for me to reconnect.